Communication for Couples: Part Two Assertiveness
Important conversations can sometimes feel stressful, and we put them off for far too long. This might result in pent-up emotions and even anger that infiltrate the talk, making it uncomfortable and excessively confrontational.
Separating your thoughts from your feelings and being assertive is necessary if you want to learn how to communicate better in a relationship.
How to Be Assertive in Your Relationship
Better communication in a relationship takes practice, so you should learn to be assertive. This entails expressing your feelings and satisfying your needs without hurting your spouse.
You could:
Use kind words - Even when partners attempt to settle an issue, coming from a kind and loving place will aid in the process. Regardless of the subject's complexity, it would help to remind your spouse that you are on the same team. "I love you, and I am here" is an excellent place to start.
Be precise - Improve your communication skills and avoid excessive talking. Reminiscing on the past or exaggerating the issue would not resolve the situation. Therefore, balance the need and your words for the best results.
Consider your partner's emotions - There are many ways to communicate better in a relationship. It would help if you remembered that connection is essential and that there are no winners or losers. Because communication in your relationship is not intended to establish who is right or wrong, you must avoid offensive and passive-aggressive lines.
How to Help Your Partner Be Assertive in Your Relationship
Your spouse may require your strength and assistance with assertive communication, in which case you might offer the following:
Couples therapy to get your marriage or relationship on the right track toward improved communication. This way, an expert may assist you immediately using different strategies.
Allow your companion to discover their inner voice that talks openly about their feelings. Remind them to be polite and not to respond immediately if strong emotions arise as they begin to speak.
Try not to take everything personally and remember that you are on the same team and attempting to improve your relationship.
References
The Gottman Institute. (2023). The Gottman Relationship Checkup. https://www.gottman.com/professionals/gottman-relationship-checkup/
Gottman Connect. (2022). How to Communicate Better in a Relationship. https://info.gottmanconnect.com/blog/how-to-communicate-better-in-a-relationship
